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When God Has Other Plans For You

By Wendy Tan

My world fell apart 15 years ago when I found out that my husband was having an affair and had fathered a child with this woman. It felt as though a sword had pierced through my heart and whatever trust I had in him was destroyed.

But deep down inside, I believe that a marriage is meant to last forever and I was sure there was a way to salvage ours. Our son was only three years old then and I couldn’t imagine putting him through the ordeal of a divorce.

So we stayed together for another seven years trying to make things work. But the conflicting feelings of anger, injustice and grief festered within me. While I doubled my efforts to be a better wife and mother, at the back of my mind I was always questioning: “Why me, God? Why did this have to happen to me?”

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Jason Evert ‘LIVE’:
Change of venue for two of the talks

Organisers of the Jason Evert ‘Live’ in Singapore event have moved the venue from Catholic Junior College to The MAX Pavilion at Singapore Expo to accommodate a bigger crowd. This involves two of the three events lined up during Jason’s one-day visit to Singapore.

The renowned American author and speaker on sexuality and chastity is due here on January 14 and will be giving separate talks to parents, young adults and the youth on pressing issues of the subject faced by all these groups of Catholics today.

The move to The MAX Pavilion refers to sessions on ‘Finding Love That Lasts’ and ‘Love Matters’, both aimed at the young. “Since the registration portal opened a month ago, individual and bulk bookings have been coming in fast,” said

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Chastity begins at home

Many parents dread having to give their once-babies-now-teenagers-with-raging-hormones the talk. I asked a friend if she could share tips on how she used to talk to her grown kids about sex when they were teenagers: “Huh?! I’ve blocked out those awkward memories!” she exclaimed. Another friend quickly switched topics in a panic to distract her nine-year-old who wanted to know how babies are made. And so we end up dodging these sensitive and awkward questions putting them off indefinitely… leaving it to the school teachers or catechists to answer those questions. Or worse, letting the kids go find out on their own!

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Jason Evert to speak here

Jason and Crystalina Evert.

Renown US Catholic champion of chastity Jason Evert is coming to Singapore next January to give a series of talks to various target audiences.

The much-sought after speaker, who together with his wife, Crystalina, has spoken about the virtue of chastity in many countries to more than one million people, including during World Youth Days in Sydney, Madrid, and two months ago, in Kraków.

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NFP: Just another form of contraception?

Contrary to popular belief, Natural Family Planning (NFP) is not “Catholic Contraception” like it is commonly misconstrued. It isn’t the outdated “calendar rhythm method” either, where a woman estimates when her fertile period is, based on information gleaned from her previous six cycles. This method is quite unreliable indeed. So what exactly is NFP and what’s all the fuss about?

Natural Family Planning or NFP is an umbrella term for scientific, natural and moral methods of family planning that can help couples either achieve or postpone pregnancies by observing the fertility signals of a woman’s body to determine the most likely days of conception in the month. Some methods of NFP include the Sympto-Thermal Method, the Creighton Model System of FertilityCare (CrMS), and the Billings Ovulation Method (BOM).

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Preserving the Catholic Family

The Catholic Family Dialogue featured a panel discussion, consisting of Catholics from all walks of life.The Catholic Family Dialogue featured a panel discussion, consisting of Catholics from all walks of life.

Over 150 people turned up for this year’s Catholic Family Dialogue on 23 July at Catholic Junior College. Organised by the Archdiocesan Commission for the Family (ACF), the event sought to explore the relevance of the Catholic Family in today’s challenging world.

It was due to the apparent decline of the practice of the faith at home that prompted the organisers to go for the theme ‘Will the Catholic Family Still be Relevant Tomorrow’.

Mr Kevin Simon, 27, was among the participants who signed up for the event. A volunteer at a youth centre, he went with the hope of learning how to reach out to troubled teenagers. He was accompanied by his mother, Mdm Debbie Ng, 58, who hopes to help her grandchildren grow in the Catholic faith despite life’s distractions.

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Will the Catholic family still be relevant tomorrow?

For the Tan and Long families, praying together not only allows them to lift their petitions to God, but also helps them to learn more about each other. Through prayer, they learn about the issues that worry them and the things that they are thankful for. Amidst the hustle and bustle of everyday life, prayer also allows these two families some quiet time to reflect and connect.

“As parents, we have a responsibility to show our children the importance of family prayer. When we pray, we put aside anger and frustration and ask for forgiveness. This enables us to grow spiritually together with God as a family,” said Mrs Sylvia Aloysius-Tan, whose three sons are altar servers at St Vincent de Paul Church.

The Kim family, on the other hand, finds it a challenge to set aside time to practise the Catholic faith after the arrival of their second child. Apart from reading Noah’s Ark and other bible stories to their two-year old, Alex and his wife do not lead an ‘active Catholic faith life’ and sometimes miss attending the Mass, too.

“This seems to be getting more common among Catholic families these days, where work and domestic issues imperceptibly take precedence over the practice of the faith,” observed Mrs Annabella Long, a mother of two school-going boys. “We are also often confronted by the distractions of social media and other supposedly important preoccupations,” added the 46-year-old parishioner of Christ the King Church.

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Groomed by faith

She’s an actress, singer and entrepreneur but meet her on any given Sunday and you’ll be forgiven for thinking that she’s just an ordinary parishioner. But 29-year old Cheryl Wee is anything but ordinary.

Daughter of Mervin Wee and Jean Yip, of the famed Jean Yip chain of hair and beauty outlets, she juggles a busy schedule of film shoots, being the ambassador for Jean Yip and managing her first entrepreneurial venture, Cheryl W, a wellness and weight management centre. Despite all this, the “Mata Mata” actress makes it a point to attend Mass with her family when she’s not working and even serves as lector with her father at Church of the Sacred Heart.

Cheryl’s devotion to the Catholic faith is an example of her family’s love for God. “My parents, grandparents and aunts are devout Catholics, not only through words but by actions, and that has been my guidance and morals to live by,” said Cheryl.

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Many a starry-eyed couple enters into marriage on cloud nine, thinking that love conquers all - only to be rudely awakened by the stark reality that marriage is no bed of roses. To augment existing marriage preparation programmes in the diocese, the Archdiocesan Commission for the Family (ACF) will be launching its Couple Mentoring Journey (CMJ) later this year, where older married couples journey with newly married ones for a short period. Jeanette Alexander asks young couples and potential couple mentors for their thoughts.

Is there ever a perfect marriage?

Colin and Audra with their children (from left) Keisha, John-Paul and KaylaColin and Audra with their children (from left) Keisha, John-Paul and Kayla
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, according to 41-year old Colin Yeow, who is married to Audra Lim, 37. “And couple mentoring is a very concrete way of understanding this reality,” he adds. The couple, who have been married for 10 years, felt a mutual prompting to answer the call to be couple mentors in the CMJ programme a few months ago.
“We dated for six-and-a-half years before getting married and felt we knew all there was to know about each other. But married life is different. There was a lot of adjusting and dying to self that had to be done,” says Audra.

She recalls that the initial years were even more challenging when their two children came along. “What helped us stay sane was meeting other marrieds and hearing about their very similar struggles with their spouses and children. And then we felt normal,” she reveals, citing the confidence they garnered just by knowing that other couples went through similar circumstances and overcame them.

“We have our own marriage battle scars and we know that in the lowest of the low moments, it can seem quite impossible for a marriage to recover… but it does – with prayer, lots of effort and making a constant choice to choose love. We want to help other young marrieds know that it is worth the journey,” says Audra, who feels that the time she is supposed to set aside for the CMJ progamme is manageable, even with three young children.

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