I am a Singapore citizen who moved to the US over 20 years ago. I hope to return home when my family’s grown because it is where my heart is.
I am a suburban mom with zero interest to promote the rights of one group over another. But I cannot remain silent when influential Singaporeans are rallying people to repeal 377A under the misguided concept of repression. It is my duty as a Singapore citizen to speak up having lived through how it’s unfolded in America.
If any group is repressed, it is the silent majority who believe that sex and marriage should be between a man and a woman. Going by my experience in the US, anybody who holds a different opinion is labelled intolerant, a bigot or a Nazi.
That’s the first problem. These labels are judgmental, shutting down dialogues, breeding social discord and division.
Decriminalising gay sex is the doorway to legalising gay marriage. One precedes the other.
The LGBTQ has deep pockets and a very loud voice. They have the support of the media and Hollywood celebrities, and some of the richest men in the world and powerful social media engines like Google, Facebook, and big corporations. In Singapore, they have the esteemed to get the ball rolling, and support from a list that reads like a Who’s Who in Singapore. To use the victim mentality, claiming to be repressed because of being a minority group is a disingenuous argument.
It is evident that the private right to marry has become politics in America. The Democrats use gay rights to garner votes.
We witness in America that you can’t decouple gay rights from politics. What is there to stop foreign interference in domestic policies when these interest groups start getting funding and support for their causes under the guise of human rights and civil liberty?
If you see what’s happening in America, it is no longer about the right to love and marry someone of the same sex. That right to choose in one’s private life has snowballed into a huge social dilemma. The gay community presents its case as an equal right to love, which appeals to any decent human being. But that is not what it is because it doesn’t stop there.
In the US, there are cases upon cases of small businesses who are sued for discrimination. Once gay marriage is legal, then any refusal to provide service becomes illegal – discriminatory. Somehow gay rights trump religious freedom which was supposed to be protected under the First Amendment. So, if citizens are not protected in America, which has a law set in stone by its forefathers, what is there to protect that personal religious or cultural belief of Singaporeans if 377A is repealed?
Gays and transgenders are not equal. They are not content to be equal as they demand more than equality. They are so powerful that even the 108-year-old Boy Scouts of America has caved in to admit gays and trans as scouts and scout masters. As far as they are concerned, there are no boundaries.
Many bathrooms and locker rooms in gyms are now gender neutral. Since gender is fluid, one can choose any bathroom based on the gender of your choice. It would be an affront to my elderly mother’s dignity to see a man using a woman’s toilet. We can’t protect our daughters or grand-daughters. Schools are sued for trying to accommodate trans by letting them use staff bathrooms.
The LGBTQ community has shown itself consistently, to be intolerant.
Singapore is a multicultural society. If you remove all the religious arguments and look at the values and norms of our society, every racial group – Chinese, Malays, Indians (except the Greeks) will agree that sex and marriage is between a man and a woman. It is ludicrous that it has to be debated, or defended, like the world is round. There are some things which are immutable truths however you twist it. And they should not be subject to change based on popular culture propagated by the powerful, rich and famous.
I grew up in a pre-war house with an extended, multi-generational family of great grandmother, grandmother, great aunts, uncles and cousins in a very Taoist household with ancestral altars. Then I spent 10 years in a convent school with Irish nuns. I was raised by an agnostic dad and a Methodist mother. We coexisted. With the gay movement, there is no room for coexistence. There is no wiggle room or compromise. All that matter is what they are entitled to. They violate the very civil rights they fight for. And they have deep pockets and a massive machinery for their cause.
I fear for Singapore seeing what’s happening in America, if 377A is repealed. The ramifications are huge. I fear deep racial and class factions similar to that of liberals and conservatives in America. I fear social unrest from the resentment of the repressed silent majority who have no voice. Because their voice will cost them their jobs, business and friends.
Repealing will offend every cultural sensibility of the masses and create deep divide in the country. It is naive to think if gay sex is legalised, they will live happily ever after and our lives go unchanged. They are unstoppable as it’s never “enough” for them. Singapore has the added complexity of a multi-racial and multi-religious society whose survival hinges on a finely-honed political system that balances economic growth, public welfare and individual rights vs a laissez-faire system. We just need a page from America’s playbook to see how LGBTQ rights have disrupted every facet of society.
There can be no turning back because it’s now a cultural phenomenon, a wave so big it can’t be contained. In a city with almost six million people compressed in about 720 sq km, the stakes are even higher as there is no room for error.
The government has been chosen by the people to lead the country, to maintain unity, protect their economic interest and peace and prosperity. Therefore, it cannot be persuaded or coerced by the rhetoric of the elitist, which has created an issue overnight. So, before the government considers repealing 377A, I appeal to all concerned, to consider the risk and heavy cost to our nation – our hard-earned order and stability.
Kalynn is a Singaporean currently living in the US.